Confession time

Ok, so this may be awkward, or already blatantly clear to some, but I finally feel like I have accepted the fact that I tend to fall on the stingy side when it comes to money.
I think it's due to the fact that growing up, my parents never gave allowances of any sort. It was a "we will give you money for what you need" philosophy. And what we wanted, we could earn/save or wait till the next big holiday. (Not saying this is a bad thing, I just din't think it worked for me-but I appreciate what my parents did).

So, I never had money of my own. And when I did, I held on to it- and would use it SUPER carefully.
But at the same time, I was more than willing to spend others money. And at the same time, I have also been sorta on the greedy side- and always want/feel that I need things. (Probably due to the fact that I am the youngest and got lots of hand-me-downs).

I try to make up for it in other ways- giving time, baking, trying to help others be happy, advice, whatever I could give- just not necessarily money.

So getting married, something interesting occurred.
When I have money, I never spend it.
But for some reason I keep thinking of OUR money as HIS money. And not because he is the one technically working for it.
Even when I worked while we were first marrieds, my mind did not have the "stop-spending" mode that it should of had with MY money.

It has taken me nearly TWO years of marriage to finally get OUR money processed throughout my brain.

Does anyone else ever have this problem?
I hate it.

I want to give.
I want to be willing.
I want to remember that ESPECIALLY in financial matters, Joe and I are ALWAYS A TEAM.

So, my/Joes only solution (thus far):
Put a $$ on the work I do.

Crazy I know.
But it makes sense, right?

When Henry Ford came out with the assembly line, his workers got depressed because they never got the SATISFACTION of completing a finished work.

And a study showed that women/mothers/wives don't mind doing the housework/ they just want it to be ACKNOWLEDGED and APPRECIATED.

So, this is my answer. I know I made a lot of jumps in this post, but to my mind- it all fit together to reach my purpose.
Somehow, working for my family, I will be willing to give money.

I am so lucky to have a husband who had ALWAYS been willing to give of his wealth.
It's one of the things I LOVE about him.
:)




By the way....
This is the cake I made that man yesterday for his birthday. :)